tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927424045052332929.post4075479058915855842..comments2023-07-04T04:16:00.268-07:00Comments on Matir Asurim: Calling out ableismDandGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13078892548041115257noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927424045052332929.post-17416002932427183472015-02-16T07:44:08.515-08:002015-02-16T07:44:08.515-08:00Based on your FaceBook friend's comments -- &q...Based on your FaceBook friend's comments -- "I am disturbed you drew the wrong conclusion about me", "you lectured me", "you made assumptions about me" -- it sounds as though your friend is feeling sensitive about all this.<br /><br />(Personally, I don't think the accusations are justified, based on what you're repeated here. Is lecturing a sin? What's wrong with making assumptions? If I make an assumption about you -- we all do this, every day -- and my assumption is incorrect, then you correct me, right? You don't make me wrong for having had the gall, the audacity, the <i>chutzpah</i> to have made assumptions about you.<br /><br />I read a while back -- on FaceBook, actually -- that we should strive to be kind, always, because everyone we meet is struggling with battles we know nothing about. So let's assume that your friend is struggling with something big -- not necessarily having anything to do with the subject at hand -- and let's hope that, sooner or later, your friend will deal with it, if possible, or reach out and ask for help if not.Daniel in Brooklinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16296850357629131645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927424045052332929.post-33937099724595521062015-01-22T14:25:41.919-08:002015-01-22T14:25:41.919-08:00Thanks!
For all I know, the other person has a chi...Thanks!<br />For all I know, the other person has a child or other family member on the spectrum, and is speaking from her experience. We certainly know of many well-meaning caretakers and family members who nonetheless perpetuate ableism. gpshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14621047190396415934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927424045052332929.post-24948241193801556122015-01-20T15:17:47.547-08:002015-01-20T15:17:47.547-08:00This is a good example of why "we" don&#...This is a good example of why "we" don't bring up the subject as much as maybe we should. How many times has a friend ( A FRIEND) used the r-word around me and my son and I don't even say anything, because, well...<br />Then again, there are people I have called out, and they have made the effort to change their easy slurring ways :) I guess I've tried to gage it a bit based on where *that* person is. This is a bit of a ramble, sorry, but you asked and <br />I am still wtithout a real answer. <br />I am impressed when people have the wherewithal and the courage to speak up, but if a person isn't ready to listen, they can't hear either. <br />I guess we just have to keep trying. Maybe the next person who brings it up to your friend will get through...Mardra Grown Ups and Downshttp://www.mardrasikora.com/noreply@blogger.com